Ask Annalise: Mean Girls and Friendship

Q: Dear Annalise, I have been struggling with my friends. I love them, I really do, but they are starting to act like Regina from Mean girls. How can I keep my friendships while staying true to who I want to be?

A: I feel ya, girl. I think we all go through this at one time or another, and you just have to face the facts: people change. The question file0001602209938you have to ask yourself is: is it a good change? I have had times when I’m listening to someone who I call my best friend talk, and it’s  like, “I don’t even know you anymore!” In the wise words of Carrie Bradshaw from The Carrie Diaries, “We’ve been friends for a long time. Maybe all it means is it’s been a long time because it certainly doesn’t mean you’re a good friend.” Don’t compromise your integrity for the sake of the friendship if the friend isn’t worth it. Step out of your comfort zone; the next time your friends say or do something you don’t like, tell them. If they stop being your friends because you were honest about how their actions were affecting you, maybe they weren’t actually that great of friends.

When Annalise von Sprecken is trying her hardest to not flunk out of Algebra II and her freshman year in high school, she is dreaming of the beach, baking more food than anyone should ever consume, and writing. She loves clothing, music, Vampire Diaries, and boys. When she eventually graduates, Annalise hopes to be a princess or maybe a pop star.  You never know. Until then she puts most of her hard work into Instagram and school. Feel free to ask her questions at Ask Annalise (


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