Self-acceptance is essentially a state where you are satisfied or happy with yourself. It plays an important role in our mental health. Being content with our personality can boost our self-confidence and our self-esteem greatly and can aid us in carrying ourselves with surety.
Everyone has insecurities. Some people are blessed with an indifferent attitude toward public opinion and attention, but, unfortunately, not all of us are unconcerned. Though achieving self-acceptance is not easy, keeping the following points in mind can help:
•You are not alone: Every person is insecure about one thing or another. So, every time you are tormented by self-doubt and diffidence, remember that there are millions of people out there going through the exact same thing as you are.
•You are loved: Your insecurities may be afflicting you greatly, but there are people who love you despite your uncertainties. They overlook your anxiety. In some cases, they may even like those things that bother you.
•Don’t be too self-critical: We often tend to make a big deal out of something insignificant. We assume that everyone notices our “flaws” and that they comment on it. But the truth is, they don’t care. Believe me. Judging yourself too harshly can have a great negative impact. Shed the habit.
•Don’t set high expectations: We all set goals and work hard to achieve them, but it is important to set goals that are realistic. If we set objectives that are impractical, it demoralizes us greatly. So alter your expectations of yourself so that they are reasonable.
•Play along: Some of us can even be subjected to bullying on the basis of our insecurities. The best way to counter this is to play along. If they tease you, then play along with them and tease yourself. As bizarre as this may sound, it works. They stop teasing. It also helps you in accepting yourself the way you are.
•Don’t compare: This may be a hard one, but it is a huge factor in letting go of our apprehension. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Yes, this sounds clichéd, but it is absolutely true. I was insecure about my looks for a long time. But to my surprise, my friend confessed to me once that she yearned to look like me. This taught me that there is always someone out there who loves you for the way you are. So don’t try to look like someone else. How you are/how you look is special.
•Recognize your strengths: Instead of concentrating on what you are not, pay attention to what you are. Celebrate your strengths. Everyone has something unique about themselves. Acknowledge your assets.
•List out your accomplishments: In order to prove your worth to yourself, make a list of all the things that you are proud of, ranging from the trivial to the serious. If you feel you have no noteworthy accomplishments, then go achieve something! Participate in a charitable event, help someone out, or try your hand at a new experience or a hobby.
Loving yourself for who you are is hard. We always crave for things which we’re not, but if everyone looked and behaved in the same way, imagine what a boring world it would be! Each of us makes this world special and diverse in our own way. We should never tell ourselves otherwise.
Drishika Nadella has always wanted to be a different kind of superhero: one who inspires and protects with words, because she knows she is hopeless physically. She is a 15-year-old who just graduated to college, and in her spare time she ponders about how quadratic equations have real-life applications. She lives in India with her family, friends, and lots of aspirations. Her work has been published in Sprout Magazine and Stepping Stones Magazine among others. Her blog Desolation and Delectation is her ultimate solace.