How to Survive Awkward-First-Date Syndrome

There is a benefit to being a “relationship-er.” A top reason being: you only have to go on a first date once or twice before you never have to do that again. I am one of these people. I don’t have too much experience in the dating department, but I have heard endless stories from friends regarding the inevitable Emilie Hendryx in-love-1392704252fjW“awkward-first-date syndrome.” And thus begins my advice to all those who need to know how to survive that first date.

 

Tip #1:

First, Remember that this is also his first date with you. And if you were not friends beforehand — and sometimes even if you were– then there is a lot of ground you need to cover on that first date. But, you don’t want your first time out with him to turn into an interview. So be sure not to ask too many questions one after the other; instead, have a conversation. Listen and mentally take notes on what he has to say. Do you think he will be a good fit for you?

 

Tip #2:

A myriad of things can go wrong on a first date: wardrobe malfunction, bad hair day, incidents that involve falling face first into the pavement, an unexplainable urge to cry… I could go on and on. This is where you need to laugh at yourself and find humor in the situation. Chances are that if you are laughing, he will be laughing too.

 

Tip #3:

This one is for girls like me who like to go on really fun, exciting dates. However, I am not sure your first date should be one of these. I think it has to be simple, especially if you don’t really know each other very well. This is a get-to-know-you date, and sky diving just doesn’t give you the time you need to talk to each other; and, if you are thinking you could chat on the way up… I doubt it. You would probably be thinking about how if you die today, it is going to be with this guy you barely know and that you wish you would have just gone for ice cream or coffee instead.

 

Tip #4:

My last tip is to be yourself. If you get the guy to have a second date with you because you were acting like something you weren’t, then that is what he is going to expect the next date and the next. I think the best thing you can do is to pretend you are just meeting a friend for the first time. This will really lighten the situation and help you to relax.

 

First dates should be something you look forward to and enjoy. Then, hopefully, that first date will turn into a second and third. I would also encourage you, though, to be really picky when it comes to picking that guy who should be so lucky to get the chance to hold your hand and “court” you for the long haul. Don’t settle for “almost good enough.” Settle for “waaayyyy too good enough.”

 

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