With the advent of online dating applications, finding your “soul mate” is now made easier. Strangers can meet and connect with just a few clicks. You can go on dates even if you’re miles away. You can even enter a relationship and secure it with just a touch of a button. There are even some matches that end up tying the knot in the end. But this technological convenience also brings with it tons of opportunities for deceit, lies, and scams.
Before saying “I do,” it is important to secure your future by getting to know the person you’re about to marry. Here’s why you should have a premarital investigation before marrying your partner.
To Confirm the Identity of Your Partner
You need to make sure that your partner is who she or he really claims to be. With public records being placed in online databases, a person can easily discard his old identity and assume somebody else’s life. Hiring a private investigator to confirm your partner’s identity will help put your mind at ease. Identity checks can also provide you with evidence that assures you of your partner’s honesty, even before your marriage begins. If your partner lied about the most basic information, including his real name, age, and birthplace, he could be lying about other things in your relationship.
To Ensure That Your Partner Is Legally Single
Confirming your partner’s identity will also help in checking his or her real marital status. You need to know if your partner was previously married and the reason why he or she kept this a secret from you. The results from this investigation lets you confront your future spouse and ask them how the previous marriage ended and whether they have children or money-related commitments.
Marital checks also allow you to make sure that the person you’re about to spend the rest of your life with can legally marry you because they’re single. This kind of background check will save you from further embarrassment or possible legal consequences resulting from tying the knot with an already married person.
To Get Acquainted with Your Partner’s Family
When you tie the knot, you also make the decision of marrying into your spouse’s family. It is only wise to do background checks on your partner’s family members, especially if he or she seems hesitant in introducing you to them. You should be aware of any problems within the family because these conflicts could have a big impact on your future married life. It is best that you are made aware of any potential difficulties before getting married so that you and your partner can make informed decisions on how best to deal with them in the future.
To Uncover Possible Skeletons in the Closet
Everybody comes with baggage from the past. Having a premarital background check allows you to look into your partner’s past life and the possible complications that come with it. This type of investigation can reveal bad employment history, felony background, financial problems, a scandal, a history of substance abuse, and more. These instances can be considered deal-breakers and should be addressed by couples before getting married.
Making the decision to enter a life-long commitment such as marriage is a goal many dream of. Unfortunately, there are some people who make a living out of conning others, and marriage serves as the perfect method for that. Premarital background checks lessen the chances of you being a victim of fraud, scams, or a costly divorce.
Not everything uncovered from these checks results in negative information. Sometimes, information collected from premarital investigations can yield useful data that can bring you and your future spouse even closer. Having a private investigator dig into your future spouse’s life may seem heartless at first, but it can ultimately save your relationship in the end. It clarifies present conflicts and puts nagging suspicions to rest, letting you enjoy your married life. Conducting a premarital background check is not a sign that you do not trust your partner. It is a sign that you care about your future life together and that you want your marriage to have a strong foundation free from lies, paranoia, and deceit.
Monica Mendoza is the manager for a fortune 500 company, and she counts communication coaching and personality development among her passions. In her spare time, she engages in writing, gardening, surfing, and hiking.